Who are you & what are you doing?

Wednesday, March 9, 2011

We are only given this one life to make a difference in this world.  And I'm sure many of you, if you haven't already, will ask yourself one day, "what kind of memory/legacy will I leave with this world?"  But until then, what are you doing — right now, for people to think of you as?  What do people think about when they hear your name?  Is it good things or bad?  

Are you just someone who follows or are you leader?  I'm sure if you sit back and think about it, we have all been known as a follower at some point and time in our lives.  Most of us went through this stage during high school and college, and some are still trying to get out of this stage.  Trying to fit in to be liked with the "in crowd" and to be invited to do things you think others will think is cool.  And now that those days are long gone, are you still a follower?  Do you still try to act like someone your not or try to be someone who you wish you were?  Are you living your life trying to mimic others actions instead of living your own life? 

For most of us, our high school and college days are long behind us.  School has been replaced with work and our once sporty extra curricular activities are now meetings with different organizations that either we volunteered for or were volunteered to join.  Responsibility has set in and whether you like it or not, your life is a reality.  You are responsible for your actions.  When situations are thrown at you, do you handle them like an adult or do you revert back to your high school/college days?  Do you take the higher road?  If not, then you should.  It's part of growing up.

We have all made mistakes in our adult life and I'm sure there will be many more mistakes that will be made.  But, part of being an adult is learning how to deal with those mistakes.  The best part of living your life is just that — living your life.  People of all different walks of life will come into our lives and try to make our lives something that it is not, but it is up to you to make the decision to not let it affect your life.  Move on and live your life.  Dwelling on the past will not get you anywhere in life, but a ticket to stay in the past.  If your living in the past or dwelling on it or someone, might I suggest praying about it.  God truly has a way of taking any situation and making you feel better about it.     
I love being me and leading the life that is mine.  I'm proud to say I'm not a follower.  How boring would life be if I lived my life to study the life of someone else and then try to make my life just like theirs? I am the only person that can be me and I love that. No matter how hard anyone else tries to mimic the things I do or the things I say (or blog) I am the only Joy, aka Southern Socialite.  Life is truly what you make of it.  Those who are sitting back  "following" my actions and not leading their own life, I can only take it as the highest compliment you can give.  Others do notice if you are just a follower and people do talk about it.  Hopefully there will come a day where you will take the higher road and take your own life and lead it your way. 



  1. I am slowly trying to change who I am and how people perceive me. Up until recently I was known as a very outspoken, opinionated, and rude woman. I have gone back to church and gotten closer to God and now I would like to been seen as someone who is a witness, a missionary, a leader, a kind hearted spirit. It is really hard to change yourself and how people look at you, but in the end worth every effort.

  2. I couldn't agree more! I love this blog post... and I love you!!! I'm so glad to have you as a friend in my life! You are a LEADER for sure, and one I am proud to know.
    It's so sad that others become followers in their own lives and let jealously and spite darken their hearts. I wish people would stop worrying about, "Why does this person get to do that" and FOCUS ON MAKING THINGS HAPPEN FOR YOURSELF. If things aren't happening for you (not you Joy, this is me talking to others), there's a reason, and you should evaluate your own life and stop worying about others. I'm so glad that you are the type of person who creates your own success and leads your own life. You're an incredible friend and role model.


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